“An intriguing entomological experiment shows that a male butterfly will ignore a living female butterfly of his own species in favor of a painted cardboard one,
if the cardboard one is big.
Nearby, the real, living female butterfly opens and closes her wings in vain.”
~ Annie Dillard, The Writing Life
Not just the things that are bigger, flashier, splashier than you are.
The real things are nearby, stretching their wings, waiting for you to notice.