March 30, 2015

At The End of The Day

"Mommy, I wish you weren't an author."

(Ouch.)

I had just finished an evening of teaching.  It's been a long, rough day, as is the nature of a day when I'm teaching: there's no way the Enemy is going to let me sail through the day without a snag.  It has something to do with speaking truth: I become most aware of my own indiscretions.

The boys have spent the evening with a girl we adore.  Miss G is my right-hand girl, nearly a resident babysitter.  I love her, and so do they.  And now I have come home to two children who have resisted the bedtime routine, one is playing with his homemade 'grappling hook' made from shoelaces and a boomerang, and the other is a weepy puddle of fears.  We are on the couch, a tangle of arms and legs.  And shoelaces.

"Why, lovey?"the word love written on a lined piece of school paper in ink wi

"Because I don't want you to teach other places and be gone and travel to all these other countries."

(The upcoming country I'm visiting is called Ohio.)

I try to remind them that we've spent the last three evenings together.  I try to remind them that we had a great Trio Date last night, with extra cheese on our pizza.  I try to explain that this is my job now, this author gig.  I think about explaining words like "mortgage." I try to tell them that I'm obeying God by speaking the words he has given me.

But none of these things matter to them.  And too much of "God's will" could just make them resent God for keeping their momma's calendar full.

I let them talk and cry (and grapple with shoelaces) until I realize this cycle is going nowhere good.  It's after nine o'clock, and we have in our genetic composite a curfew on rationality.  Stay up too late, and we're toast.  No closet lights can shine a light against irrationality.  Sleep is the only cure.

"Mommy, maybe you can write a poem for us.  So when you die, and Grandma and Poppa own us, then they could read it to us."

Nothing I can ever say will ever help them believe I am safe, here, and not secretly dying.

I carry them to their bedroom.  "Boys, let me tell you a bedtime story.  It's about two boys, and their names are Toby and Tanner."

"They start with T, just like us!"
"Are there sisters in the story?  There should be sisters.  Taylor… and Twister."
"Twister is a boy's name."
"Then she could be called Rosie.  Toby, Tanner, Taylor and Rosie."
"I want them to be called Tucker and Tyler.  And Tricia."
"Oh, like us?"
"Yes.  Us."
"Which one are you?"
"I'll be Tucker."
"And I'll be Tyler."

Deal.  I'll be Tricia, and this story is getting much easier to tell.

"Once upon a time, there was a mommy and two little boys.  And the mommy became an author.  She wrote books, and people read them.  And sometimes the people wanted her to read to them, or talk to them, or teach them.  So the mommy, Tricia, obeyed God and she shared all the words he had given her.  And sometimes that means she was gone for an evening or a day or a night or two."

"Or four."  Right.  That upcoming trip to the country of Ohio will be for four days.

"But, no matter how many books she wrote, no matter what people called her - writer, author, speaker, teacher - the most important name was was the first one she had been given: Mommy.  She loved her children more than anything in the world."

"More than God?"

"Well, she loved them differently than God.  God made her, so she worships him.  And God gave her these two boys, so she worships him.  But she loves these boys more than anyone in the world."

They study my face, looking for truths in the twin bed with us.

"The mommy traveled sometimes, but she always came back.  And they could call her anytime they wanted to, and they could do Facetime, and she left them gifts to open every single day."

"Did she mail them?"

"No, she prepared them before she left."  And now she's adding this to her List of Tasks before Traveling Next Week.

"She always came back, she was always there when they needed her, but they did not always need her.  They are smart, safe boys, and their mom loves them the most."

Someone tooted in that tender moment, which was just the tension breaker we needed.  And my cue to wrap things up.

I kissed them each, I hugged them tight.  "Good night, my loves. I love you more than all the books in the world."

I stepped into the darkness of the hallway.  I blew them one more kiss that they'll never see.

God, help me to do this well. 

11 comments on “At The End of The Day”

  1. You are definitely doing it well! God bless you and your boys this Easter and always!

  2. Each time I read anything you've been gifted from The Lord to write, I find new spaces in my soul are nourished in that brief moment. God is so good; so beautiful. He speaks through you each time you share your heart with all of us. I thank you.

  3. Uhm, could you come and parent my children, too?!? I know you do writers conventions and stuff like that, but you should seriously consider teaching a parenting seminar!!! Wisdom seems to drip from your words---now THAT'S a God-thing!
    Hugs from PA (that's awfully close to Ohio, but sadly seems like a whole "country" away when I'd be driving in the car by myself!)

  4. this is beautiful. and begs the question... when are you coming to ohio?!?! where will you be? and are you teaching here? (i live in said country).

  5. You are, Tricia. You are doing this well, as tough as it is. Prayers for all your hearts right now, for the peace and reassurances that are needed.

  6. "God help me do this well." It's the only way you will...and thankfully you know that already. Blessings as you move through this day, this moment before you.

  7. I would love to know where you are speaking in Ohio. I have been following your blog for over a year and I would love to hear you speak in person. I live in Hudson and am hoping you will be close. My daughter is graduating college in a few months and shed love to be a writer.

  8. “Mommy, maybe you can write a poem for us. So when you die, and Grandma and Poppa own us, then they could read it to us.”

    This. Poor little guys who know too much about life and death. Sigh.

    Beautiful words, Tricia, as usual, from a wise mom.

    Thanks for sharing the words God has given you.

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