This week, I did a phone interview with Robert Sanchez, senior staff writer with 5280 magazine. Robert and I worked closely together last year, as he profiled our family in an article titled Wife, Interrupted. He followed up this week with a Q & A for the 5280 blog, and the piece was published yesterday.
We did the interview on the phone while I strolled the mall, varying locations from my car in the parking lot, a bench on the sidewalk, a table in the food court, and finally a comfy chair near Bath & Body Works. I walked and talked, I stopped to think, I browsed and remembered.
Robert is very gracious in his questions, very comfortable to talk to, and easily makes me forget I'm doing a phone interview. It feels more like a catch-up chat with a friend.
He had some questions about "Denver's new and famous author." And for a moment, I thought, "Who is Denver's new and famous author? I'd love to read her stuff!" Oh, wait. I think he's talking about me. Oh my word. He's talking about me.
He asked my thoughts on dating, on new love, and suddenly I felt very Sleepless in Seattle, when Sam Baldwin (Tom Hanks) is on the radio with Dr. Marcia Fieldstone, and he's talking candidly about what he misses, how he's getting through the day, what he thinks could happen next.
Doctor Marcia Fieldstone: People who truly loved once are far more likely to love again. Sam, do you think there's someone out there you could love as much as your wife?
Sam Baldwin: Well, Dr. Marcia Fieldstone, that's hard to imagine.
Doctor Marcia Fieldstone: What are you going to do?
Sam Baldwin: Well, I'm gonna get out of bed every morning... breathe in and out all day long. Then, after a while I won't have to remind myself to get out of bed every morning and breathe in and out... and, then after a while, I won't have to think about how I had it great and perfect for a while.
Doctor Marcia Fieldstone: Tell me what was so special about your wife?
Sam Baldwin: Well, how long is your program? Well, it was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together... and I knew it. I knew it the very first time I touched her. It was like coming home... only to no home I'd ever known... I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was like... magic.
I sipped diet Coke from my ChickFilA cup. "Well, Robert, yes. I would love to find love again. I would love to have a partner again. I'd like to have dinner conversation with someone again. I'd like to raise my kids with somebody they can love, too."
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Please read Robert's published interview, Wife, Reborn: An Update on Tricia Williford.
Tricia you are a brave amazing woman and I thank you for your courage and your work!
I have two friends (male and female) that were widowed several years back. They were both in their early sixties and had been blessed with great, decades long marriages and grieved their spouses terribly. They went to the same church and were already church friends before he lost his wife. One thing led to another and he worked up the courage to ask her out. Within six weeks of the first date, they were married. 🙂 He lit up telling me how they knew God had given them both a second love of their lives and they weren't wasting what time they had left. She said how blessed she was to find such a Godly, wonderful man. She couldn't believe God gave her two wonderful loves in her life. I see them around town and they are still glowing. 🙂
Just keep believing. He is out there. 🙂
Hope, sweet hope 🙂
He captures everything so beautifully and with a reverance for what you've been through. I like that. To think of all those who have never experienced a severe loss or trauma and how you may be helping them is truly remarkable Tricia. You have so much to teach and are teaching.
Robert did a really great job. Your boys are so sweet! I love love love "Sleepless in Seattle". Dr. Marsha. 🙂 Praying for you guys. (ps. I never established that our families know each other. I grew up attending The Chapel. And I remember Rob in a lot of the programs the youth and children put on. My one sister and I were in a lot of them.)